HOW TO MEET YOUR SPOUSE'S NEEDS IN MARRIAGE.

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Marriage is about meeting needs. We marry because we have needs only a special, opposite sex can meet. But a few years down the line, so many couples are grossly disappointed, angry, frustrated, and deeply involved in affairs because their needs are not being met in marriage.
You can't meet a need you do not know exists. You can't make your husband/wife happy if you don't know what makes them happy. You can't make them resist emotional/sexual affairs if you are starving them hard in areas where they seriously need you to meet their needs.
So what are these needs? How do you meet them to prevent affairs in your marriage, enjoy unlimited bliss in your home, and go on to have one of the best marriages in the world?
UNDERSTANDING MEN'S NEED IN MARRIAGE
1. MEN NEED RESPECT IN MARRIAGE: Unconditional respect makes a man feel loved,
valued, and confident, take risks, and go on to succeed in life. You show this by giving him regard, talking to him with respect, and being submissive and obedient to him. Shouting disgracing, insulting, criticizing, and making jest of your husband both in private and public show you lack respect for him and this will in turn make it difficult for him to love you.(1 Peter 3:1-3 Amp).
2. ADMIRATION: A man also wants to be admired for his contributions to the home. Admire his work, achievements, career, efforts, and looks, this means the world to him.
3. SEXUAL FULFILMENT: Your husband is not asking you for $ex because he is an animal, he is asking for s€x because he needs it badly, and he is wired for it. Making love makes him feel wanted, needed, and in love with you, releases tension, gives him pleasure, helps him stable emotionally and physically, gives his best to work, eliminates distractions, and helps him focus on you only. Refusing him s€x and treating him like a pile of shit destroys his self-confidence and may have affairs to ascertain his manhood.
4. PHYSICAL ATTRACTIVENESS: Men are moved by sight. They see a lot. Women know this and bombard your husband with all manner of
nude pictures, dressing, perfume, packaging, and whatever. Be attractive to your spouse. Stay healthy, eat a balanced diet, eliminate all body odor, bath, and brush your teeth at least twice daily. Wear nice attractive, underwear. Learn to shave. Keep to shape. Let your husband be proud to identify with you in public. Don't look like a slob or his great-grandmother, please!
5. SUPPORT: Your husband wants you to support him in any way possible to achieve greatness in life. Support his dream, vision, goals, business, and career. Cheer him, encourage him, and boost his morale. Support financially to pay bills till his finances stabilize. Do not reject him, mock him, and run him down when he makes mistakes or the business has not picked up as expected. It takes time to achieve success. Rome was not built in a day.
6. GIVE HIM PEACE: A man needs peace of mind to keep his sanity. Nagging criticizing, complaining, abusing, cursing, gossiping about him to all friends and foes, and running him down can literally, practically drive him insane.
All these needs must be met by his wife. home, if not your husband is at the risk of having an affair with a woman who meets all or most of these needs in his life. What about the women?
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN'S NEEDS IN
MARRIAGE
1. AFFECTION: Your wife needs your tenderness, love, care, physical touch, embrace, cuddle, etc to feel loved and cared for in marriage. When she is starved in this area, she will be open to the temptation to have an affair.
2. CONVERSATION: Women must talk. We easily get connected to a man who listens to us, understands us and honestly shares his heart and mind with us. We need a gist mate with an open mind and understanding heart.
3. ADMIRATION: Women need lots of admiration too. Praise your wife. Admire her, compliment her, especially her looks. We are very conscious of our looks, that is why we make efforts to look good for God, for our husbands, and then for ourselves.
4. FINANCIAL SECURITY: A woman needs a man who can pay all the bills and take good care of her. Not paying bills on time, owing rent, and school fees, not having good food, clothes, and shoes to wear, and becoming an object of ridicule can destabilize a woman.
5: OPENNESS AND HONESTY: Hiding your phone, keeping secret friendships, staying alone with an opposite sex friend whom your spouse must not know about, having secret chats with ladies on Facebook, WhatsApp, and other social media platforms which your spouse must not see, secret business deals, hidden projects etc can destabilize any woman and destroy your marriage.
6. FAMILY COMMITMENT: Every woman wants a man who is committed to the family, the
children, and the home. It makes her feel secure, loved, and priceless.
You must consciously work on meeting each other's needs. Marriage is not a joke, it is not child's play, it is hard work, commitment, and self-sacrifice to ensure your partner's needs are met, and they are happy and fulfilled being married to you.
May the Lord grant us all the grace to do all we need to do to enjoy bliss unlimited in our marriages. Thanks for reading. God bless you, cheers!
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